The Right Wrong

We're all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you've been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there's no right person, just different flavors of wrong.

Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn't until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems--the ones that make you truly who you are--that we're ready to find a lifelong mate.

Only then do you finally know what you're looking for. You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person--someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, "This is the problem I want to have." ---- Andrew Boyd

Can he be right? Or is he wrong? OMG! What if he's right!

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Permalink Reply by LIGuy on April 1, 2008 at 11:49am: Having been married to my first wife for twenty years and my second for thirty years I know that there is no such thing as that perfect person we are all looking for. After the lust phase is over you start to see the faults you didn't notice before. The longer you are with a person you have to either learn to accept their faults as a minor part of their overall being or you decide that you can't live with them and you look for another perfect person. After you go through the process a few times you realize that you have to take love your SO as they are or spend the rest of your life in a fruitless search for the impossible.

When a man marries he eventually gets tired of his wife because she hasn't remained the girl he fell in love with.

When a woman marries she eventually gets tired of her husband because she can't change him into the man she wants him to become.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Marti on April 1, 2008 at 1:33pm: So, LIGuy, you are saying inertia trumps boredom?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by LIGuy on April 1, 2008 at 1:39pm: In a relationship intertia equals boredom. I do think that it's inevitable that a very long relationship eventually becomes boring.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Marti on April 1, 2008 at 1:48pm: Well, if that is the case, according to Boyd, you chose the wrong wrong, instead of choosing the right wrong.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by LIGuy on April 1, 2008 at 2:26pm: ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tim555 on April 3, 2008 at 11:40am: That Boyd knows how to fly
Cool...So with this therory..
..two wrongs can make it right!!!

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two wrongs...can make it.....Right???; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Marti on April 3, 2008 at 2:35pm: Only if you're right.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tim555 on April 3, 2008 at 6:30pm: Well I may be way out in left field
but I am usually right about this stuff..
ask my dog ..he agrees..; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Marti on April 13, 2008 at 12:04pm: I believe you are talking about Nirvana.

Unconditional love is what you are seeking. Hmmmmm. I think you have definitely been choosing the wrong wrong.; ▶ Reply to This